Ask a friend (or two!)

Do you find it easy to identify your good qualities? Are you proud of your talents? Are you confident about who you are? If you are, that’s great!

But lots of us find it much easier to list all the things we’re bad at. We dismiss our good points and assume that we’re not worth much. A great way to focus on the good things is to get someone else to do it for you.


Find someone you really, really trust. You could do it with a few friends if you like. Each of you take a selfie on your phone, then pass them round so you’re all looking at a picture of someone else.

Write down all the great things about the person whose photo you got. Try to think of at least ten things.

What are they like as a friend?
Why do you enjoy spending time with them?
What can they do that you wish you could?
What talents do they have?
What are they good at in school?
What do you admire in them?


If you’re doing it in a bigger group, swap the phones round again, and do the same list for someone else. Keep going until you’ve all written a list for each other.

Give each other the lists so you can all read what the others think are your good points.



Read Romans 12:3-5

For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you. For just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us.

Think of yourself ‘with sober judgment’. That is, think of yourself how you really are – not better than you are, but not worse than you are either.

We all have bodies with lots of different parts, doing different things. As Christians, we are like a body, all different, all doing different things, and all needed by each other.

You are necessary and important!